Happy New Year!

With the start of 2011, I thought I'd re-post a blog I had originally written in February 2009. It has to do with the people who come and go in our lives, be it family, friends or co-workers. Everyone has a purpose and as you read this 3 part blog, I'm sure you'll be able to relate to it, in one way or another.......

Reason, Season or Lifetime

I’ve decided that this blog will have to do with Friendship and the people who come and go in our lives. Someone sent me this email awhile back and the words seem so true.
I’d like to share that
email with you and then say
a few more things about it........

People come into your life for a
reason, a season or a lifetime.....
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support,
To aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are...
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
This person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons,
Things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson,
Love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.....
I’d like you all to think about those words. I’m pretty sure if you go through the list of those who have come into your life, those who have left or those you’re still friends with, these words hold oh so true. I know they do for me. I’d like to mention that the person who sent that email to me, I have not heard from since November. I remember when I got that email from him, I responded by saying that we’ve already known each other longer than a season, know each other for many reasons and that I hoped to be friends for a lifetime.....I guess maybe that’s not the way it’s suppose to be. I have no idea what happened or why I have not heard from him. I guess maybe someday it’ll all make sense.

There have been so many people who have come into my life. Some for a short time (a season) some for lengthy periods (a reason) and some are still hangin' around!

There is another person who I truly miss. I met him on the internet under some of the oddest circumstances, LOL. But we became fast friends. He was having problems with the woman he was in a relationship with and I was having problems in my marriage...and NO, we never dated or anything else. But this person became a rock for me during that period of my life. He made me laugh, see things in a different light and had infinite words of wisdom.

The day I was moving into my apartment after deciding to end a 21 year marriage, he called but I wasn’t there. He left me a message and when I listened to it, I cried. The words of support and caring were something I really needed that day. I will remember for the rest of my life that voice message and what it meant to me.

Our friendship grew...we chatted or talked by phone everyday. He would call every morning at 9:00a.m. just to "check in". He called at 2:00 a.m. when he was "after Christmas" shopping at Wal-mart. Man how we laughed. He was also the person I called crying at 3:00 a.m. when Rick had decided to break up with me at one point.

Over time, even this relationship/friendship changed. We stopped talking, emailing and chatting. I know we both had things going on, but again I’ve often wondered, "what happened"? How does someone who means so much to you and is so important, just slip away??? Did we just stop needing each other? Did we both grow up? Or worse, just grow apart?

I understand I have a hand in this too. We still chat or email occasionally, but no where near like it was and I really do miss him A LOT.......

part 2 coming soon.......